Life is not "safe" and was not intended to be "safe". There are just things in life you will never get to experience until you open up and step out of your comfort zone. Think about the betrayals that Jesus suffered through and yet He forgave and continued to love. He only promised to be there to help us through it. God did not promise us a life without pain. However, you are letting your past hurts control your future. It is obvious from your posts here that you are someone who has a lot to offer to other people. If it gives Him glory, he will take care of you.īy holding people outside of your life, you are not only limiting yourself through isolation but you are cheating others out to getting to know the rich you along with the Christ who live in you. So I think the Lord is showing you and asking you to extend grace to others even IF you get hurt in the process. 3And why behold you the mote that is in your brother's eye, but consider not the beam that is in your own eye? 2For with what judgment you judge, you shall be judged: and with what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again.
This is a very great thing that the Lord is showing you. We cannot escape from this, other than going to live by ourselves as a hermit. You need to be the light in a dark place, so that when someone is, say, gossiping, you can not join in and possibly gracefully explain why your Lord doesn't want you doing that. We are all broken humans and while I respect that you don't want to be hurt, lied to, or gossip about others, I'm sure you have other flaws that maybe your friends don't (or do too). How can you effectively share the gospel, if you can give no grace to people when they fail you? You can't. He knew these were the people that needed Him and the gospel. They wouldn't do such a thing because of what other people might think of them or because maybe that sinfulness would rub off on them. remember when Jesus went and ate with "sinners"? The Pharisees were outraged. I mean how healthy is this for me? Am I digging a hole for myself by expecting someone to conform to my standards? I catch you being aggressive, you're gone.īut this is why I have few friends (which is ok), this is why I can't date, this is why I can't have a relationship with my father, I'm currently giving my co-worker the silent treatment. You want to gossip about people, you will gossip about me too. Now that I'm older and wiser, I don't give people a chance. He was telling me sooo much about himself in the early days but I chose to ignore, I chose to excuse them away. During our divorce when I found out the whole story I realized that all those lies he told were like breadcrumbs leading down a path. I put "seeing" in quotes to signfy that it was mostly physical.ĭuring our marriage I would catch him in little lies here and there.
What I didn't know at the time and what I found out years later, was that during this happy-time, he was "seeing" other women. We had a beautiful relationship and I was happy. When I met my ex-husband I was at my most innocent, trusting, open self. Or they have a very dark spirit about them. But on the average, I just distance myself, on purpose, from people because maybe they might say something against God, or I might catch them in a lie or they might curse too much. If someone outright betrays me I cut them off forever. I'm very distrustful of people and when I find one thing that offends me about one person I tend to distance myself far, far away from them.
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